My daughter,
I was taught to Obey.
To follow and be told,
To be dictated to and to be led.
Never question,
Lest you be treated unkindly,
Never resist,
Lest you be left out in the cold.
My daughter,
I was taught to fear,
What THEY said,
What THEY thought,
What THEY had that I had not,
What THEY perceived in me to be valuable.
Lest I be an outcast,
Lest I be alone,
Lest I be unwanted.
My daughter,
I was taught to devalue me.
To think in terms of,
Usefulness to others,
Attractiveness to others,
The almighty opinion of THEY.
Who say, and who heard,
Those disembodied spirits of judgement,
Tasked by the devil,
To plant the seeds of self doubt and loathing.
My daughter,
I was taught,
That my happiness was a byproduct,
Of fulfilling all the things I had been taught to want,
Things that made my heart heavy,
And my head frenzied.
My daughter,
Forget the things THEY taught your mother,
And fill yourself with the joy of being.
Despite THEM,
and how they judge, and what they say,
what does it matter?
When their judgement is but illusion,
Their whispers like so much dust in the wind,
That they should feed on your sense of self,
Lest they be forgotten,
Lest they be irrelevant,
Lest they grow jealous of your rise,
Lest you become unrepentant perfection.
In response to Photo-Fiction 15 and for my Daughter.
January 31st, 2016 at 1:14 pm
All daughters need to read this letter! Bravo!
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January 31st, 2016 at 4:55 pm
I agree! A powerful write! “Those disembodied spirits of judgement,
Tasked by the devil,
To plant the seeds of self doubt and loathing.”–we need to kick those spirits to the curb! Love those lines by the way. They are so evocative of all that holds women down. We shall never be truly free so long as they oppress us.
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February 2nd, 2016 at 1:20 am
For me those voices came from the very mouth that should have been helping to build me up, and that for me is the sad part. More often than not the biggest obstacle we face is other women.
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February 2nd, 2016 at 2:26 am
yes! Oh my God yes. I have received the harshest criticism from women and it just flummoxed me. We women need to stick together and build each other up. If don’t no one else will. 😦
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February 3rd, 2016 at 12:54 am
So true, now to try to educate all the rest of them to this fact.
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January 31st, 2016 at 9:24 pm
[…] Dear Daughter By Michelle Toussaint: The flow of this is exquisite, the sadness truly felt. […]
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January 31st, 2016 at 10:04 pm
so moving… wonderful writing.
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February 2nd, 2016 at 1:21 am
Thank you.
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February 2nd, 2016 at 12:55 am
This is fabulous. Beautifully emotive.
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February 2nd, 2016 at 1:21 am
Thank you so much 😀
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February 2nd, 2016 at 1:20 am
I’d say we came from the same generation but I KNOW you are much younger than me. So how is it we end up with the same feelings?
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February 2nd, 2016 at 1:23 am
I guess it’s ’cause some things take a long time in changing. But as I am trying to do with my daughter, I’m sure you are doing with yours. Breaking the cycle.
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February 26th, 2016 at 6:17 pm
Reblogged this on Wadadli Pen and commented:
For young girls, every day in every way. Be you.
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February 26th, 2016 at 9:27 pm
😀
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